Saturday, February 13, 2010

Being a thoughtful couple

As I crossed the Harbour Bridge tonight by train, I thought, "If I were married, I would celebrate Valentine's Day the day before and spend V Day with a whole bunch of friends (single and married) so nobody would feel left out."

This year for me, Chinese New Year trumps Valentine's Day (well, CNY trumps everything). Next year, perhaps, we'll take the opportunity to get friends together.

4 comments:

  1. That is a very good thought!

    (though I haven't even done anything for CNY aside from emailing my dad)

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  2. Hi Elsie, I am a friend of Jess',
    For the record, my husband and I don't celebrate Valentines Day, and no one in our cirle of married, "dating" or single friends really do.

    Is it a big deal with your circle of friends?

    I think couples have a great opportunity (and responsibility) to welcome single people into their homes and families, to share lives all year round. I guess if Valentines day is a big deal where you are, then it might also be one of those days too!

    God bless!

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  3. Hi Cathy!

    I think Valentine's Day in the media focuses on how happy you must be if you are in a romantic couple, and how that is the ultimate aim in life.

    So I think taking the opportunity to share the day with friends sends a message that single people aren't alone and miserable. And Romantic love isn't the only love we should celebrate. Although I really enjoy seeing couples give flowers and all that! Romance is a fine thing.

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  4. Hi Cathy!

    I think we met in our early 20s, and I did a KYLC strand with your husband about ten years ago :)

    You're right, I don't think I know many people who actually do something on V Day. But I know for some single people, who don't want to be single, V Day is a day of angst.

    As some married people have told me, couples should treat every day as V Day :)

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